So maybe that’ why what I am about to say doesn’t seem all that difficult for me. But it’s not because I haven’t struggled with the comparison game.
Because I have.
And I really think comparison goes hand-in-hand with competition.
I was on standby to a situation that happened recently that broke my heart. It was competition, at it’s ugliest, that unfortunately, made way through bitterness and ended up resulting in a very unpleasant atmosphere for everyone involved.
And sometimes we become so fixated on what other people are doing that we totally lose sight off all we are doing. By focusing so much on the success of others, we make way for ungratefulness to take root deep within us, causing us to become bitter, cynical, resentful, and hard to be around.
When we insist on making everything a competition, we disregard the authenticity of relationship, and our misguided feelings lead to inevitable abandonment because no one likes being around people who are always one-upping us, or making us feel inferior to their constant need of approval and acceptance. When we compare ourselves with other people, it leads to an ultimate ceasing of growth of any kind. Instead of taking aim at lofty goals and personal growth, we collapse under the pressure of needing to keep up with an image of perfection that’s really all in our head.
There’s a place for healthy completion. There really is. But maybe it’s time to examine the cost we’re paying as a result of a wrong attitude when it comes to competing and comparing. It will surely rob you of all joy when make it a priority to live with a combative spirit. When contention and conflict are allowed to run wild, everyone loses.
I was on standby to a situation that happened recently that broke my heart. It was competition, at it’s ugliest, that unfortunately, made way through bitterness and ended up resulting in a very unpleasant atmosphere for everyone involved.
And sometimes we become so fixated on what other people are doing that we totally lose sight off all we are doing. By focusing so much on the success of others, we make way for ungratefulness to take root deep within us, causing us to become bitter, cynical, resentful, and hard to be around.
When we insist on making everything a competition, we disregard the authenticity of relationship, and our misguided feelings lead to inevitable abandonment because no one likes being around people who are always one-upping us, or making us feel inferior to their constant need of approval and acceptance. When we compare ourselves with other people, it leads to an ultimate ceasing of growth of any kind. Instead of taking aim at lofty goals and personal growth, we collapse under the pressure of needing to keep up with an image of perfection that’s really all in our head.
There’s a place for healthy completion. There really is. But maybe it’s time to examine the cost we’re paying as a result of a wrong attitude when it comes to competing and comparing. It will surely rob you of all joy when make it a priority to live with a combative spirit. When contention and conflict are allowed to run wild, everyone loses.
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